Steeped In Purpose

 Steeped In Purpose, LLC

SIP Coaching 

Erin E. McEndree, PCLPC

www.steepedinpurpose.com

Overcoming Self Sabotage

So, it is May. How is your New Years Resolution coming? According to Statisticbrain Research Institute, only 39% of people in their twenties will keep their resolutions. Even more disturbing is the fact that only 14% of people over fifty keep their resolutions each year. This number shrinks even more when your factor in that only 45% of people intentionally make resolutions to begin with. It is safe to say that most see their goals so far in the rear view mirror at this point in May, they are not ‘closer than they appear’ and it is easier to write them off completely. 

In November, people realize a beginning is looming and intentionally think about what is really important to them…again. Putting thought into relationships, finances, health and education are the top four. Within the top ten, only two deal with helping others or spending time with family which leaves eight resolutions improving SELF. (That is a topic for another day.) Why do so many people fail at something they really want to achieve? 

Listed are three mind numbing ways we sabotage ourselves.

1. Believing Your Goal is Not Possible When You Start When you make a goal for yourself that you know would make you healthier or better, but don’t believe you can achieve it, you block your success from the get-go. Maybe your spouse said you communicate wrong. Maybe your parents never reached their health goals and you have that example in your mind. Maybe you are filling yourself with unattainable images from magazines, songs or other media. Point is: You don’t believe you will ever reach your goal.

1. Assuming Your Past Failure Will be Your Future Have you started a goal so many times and quit so many times you can't fathom a different outcome. You think you can’t change the trajectory you are on even though you desperately want to jump the tracks.

1. Recording Negative Thoughts and Replaying Them A negative voice continually chisels away at your confidence and makes you stagnant. You replay this voice, unconsciously, most of the time, esp when you have to decide to keep going. 

Self-Sabotage keeps you lost, hopeless and paralyzed. Even though you have dreams and goals, you cannot take the important first step towards them.

Finding a solution to break the wall you have barricaded your heart with takes time and some deep thought into when and how you contracted it to begin. The only way to overcome the wall is to wipe your hard-drive clean, not with a towel, but with positive truth that only comes from God. He has a plan for you! He never gives up on you! He always thinks good thoughts towards you!

When would you like to start?